The 6-month coaching with Aron and Gunnar was definitely worth it for me. In my eyes, the coaching consists of three pillars:
Pillar 1 - One's inner life: My failure in getting to know women was largely due to negative beliefs about myself, women and dating in general. In the coaching I was picked up exactly at this point, these negative beliefs were confronted and thus dissolved. Aron and Gunnar have the talent to do this empathetically on the one hand, but on the other hand to really bring your own inner garbage to the surface in a tangible way. The whole thing is not discussed on a cerebral level, but brought to the surface in a really tangible way. This was sometimes painful, but only in this way was real transformation possible.
Pillar 2 - The outside: In small steps I learned to approach women, to talk to them and to get to know them. On the one hand, I learned important technical things, such as how to stop a woman on the street when approaching her (so that the woman stops first). I found it pleasant that such technical aspects are kept very short. It is not necessary to follow a lot of rules. You get the most important basics at hand and are not forced into any corset. Rather, it's about developing courage, taking action, and living through and healing all the negativity that comes up when you're speaking live on the street. (Which then bridges back to Pillar 1.) Second, these practice lessons train social intelligence, faith in oneself, and developing courage.
Pillar 3 - The Basics: While other coaching sessions fill entire books on this topic, Aron gives a concise and to the point overview of such basics as: How do I dress properly? What do I have to pay attention to in terms of personal hygiene? Aspects such as voice, body language, eye contact, etc. are also covered.
I also liked the following things about the basic nature of the coaching:
- Authenticity: at every point in the coaching, it was about really expressing what it's like in the moment. I'm approaching a woman right now and I'm super nervous? --> Great, then show the woman exactly that! Act really counter-impulsive, make yourself vulnerable in front of the woman. It's not about getting the woman "somehow". It's about being brave, approaching women and just showing up with everything you are. It was impressive to experience for myself what power lies in this honest authenticity, in this revealing of one's own vulnerability.
- Focus: Aron has the talent to recognize the real problem. Sometimes I have described a question / a problem in the Sunday sharing rounds and thought I already had an idea where to start in order to solve the problem. Unfortunately, one is influenced by one's own patterns, perception filters, etc. in the process. In such situations Aron has the talent to recognize and address the real problem or the real cause with foresight and depth. This, of course, allows the whole thing to be solved efficiently.
- Exercises: Aron has many small practical exercises in live training that specifically trigger and dissolve your own inhibitions. For example, fears of pauses in conversation or worrying thoughts such as "What should others think?" are specifically confronted. From then on, it can be really fun to approach a woman in the presence of other people (either in the presence of other passers-by, or the woman is out with her friends).
If you are willing to be active and put yourself in a position to meet attractive women in all kinds of situations, you are definitely in good hands with Aron and Gunnar.
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