After almost 20 years of tirelessly attending constellations, therapies, seminars and couples groups, we ended up by chance (?) with Katharina Klees, whose fantastic talk I had experienced at the bonding conference in Ulm 2018. Her concept and her wonderfully fresh sympathetic manner appealed to me immediately. Moreover, after the lecture I understood what I already knew in relation to us as individuals - the traumatic origin of our lifelong difficulties - but how complex the feedback in the relationship is and that this is repeated over and over again in the interaction, like the crack in the record, that only became clear to me through Ms. Klees' explanations!
With my husband's agreement, I promptly got an appointment for an intensive weekend. The concept of the Traum(a)haus is wonderfully simple, makes tangible, experiential and vividly clear how (and why) we are doing as a couple: depending on whether we are
- in the basement with the dragons (the monsters from childhood, where the trauma is repeated)
- with the (inner) children on the ground floor, left alone and helpless
- as adults, where we have the possibility to control ourselves
- or as a couple in heaven!
During the weekend it is again and again about why we have landed so often in the basement with our previous behavior via the built-in tube in this house and how we can stay up instead with new strategies and maybe even land more often also again in heaven, what we did not even dare to dream anymore.
The wonderfully empathetic, competent way of Mrs. Klees, who picked up each of us, led us in a structured way through the weekend and let us know and above all feel how to deal with ourselves and our partner in such a way that old hurts are not triggered again and again. The feeling barometer is a wonderful tool that I have already recommended several times and will also use in my coaching sessions - everyone can really use it!
After we came to the first appointment with the admission of a pile of broken pieces, we went home at the end of the weekend fulfilled, strengthened, connected, turned towards each other and with a bulging "toolbox" - full of confidence that there are still possibilities for us as a couple!
Thanks to Katharina Klees!
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