Hello
After 15 years in a relationship, my husband and I had accumulated a number of problems, arguments without end, and we found ourselves in a vicious circle, so to speak, in which we spun and spun. We then decided to separate. When we had one last conversation together to discuss what to do next, we decided that our long-standing relationship deserved another chance. But we knew that we needed outside help - and neutral help at that. We looked into some couples therapy and when we came across Ilona&Viktor, we immediately had a good feeling about it.
At first it was a bit strange to talk to someone online that we had never seen before.
But Ilona&Vikor quickly gave me the feeling that I could trust them and open up quickly.
During the therapy, my husband and I realized that this was about much more than just our relationship. With the help of Ilona&Viktor, we both recognized a deep pain within ourselves, so we did a lot of self-reflection at first.
I also found the individual sessions did me a lot of good,
to recognize my deep feelings and traumas and to heal them for myself.
Ilona and Viktor guided us step by step and also set us realistic goals.
We kept having relapses, and even then they always picked us up and motivated us not to give up.
The best thing is that you're not only doing something for the relationship but also for yourself! At the beginning of therapy, we were so far apart emotionally.
Today we see each other with different eyes. We see each other's pain and are partially healed (we are still on the way, but on a common path of healing)
We have many more beautiful and funny moments.
And when we have relapses, we can catch ourselves faster than we used to.
The decision to do this therapy with Ilona&Viktor was one of the best in my life.
I love my husband, and I thank Ilona and Viktor from the bottom of my heart for helping me so much during one of the hardest times in my life!
Vesa
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Thank you so much for your open, honest and profound feedback.
We are very touched to read that you have found more clarity about your role in the relationship through the support - even if the path ultimately led to a separation. You have learned to stay with yourself and not get stuck in accusations.
We are very pleased that you found the trance journeys helpful and that they also enabled you to make concrete changes in your everyday life. It is precisely this transition that is important to us: not just to understand something, but to be touched internally in such a way that behavior, perception and decisions in life can really change. For us, that really is part of it: Relationship is not just communication, analysis and strategy. Sometimes there are deeper movements at work in life that we cannot fully control - and yet we can learn to face them more consciously, clearly and honestly.
Thank you also for your feedback on our work as a couple and on our male-female polarity. It means a lot to us that you could sense that we are not just speaking from concepts, but from our own experience of relationships, separation, parenthood, pain and development.
We understand your wish for more 4-way sessions. This is where things can often become visible that would otherwise remain separate or hidden. We also understand the wish and the idea that things would have gone differently, but our assessment cannot confirm this. Everyone goes as far as they can and it is always painful when it comes to separation and not getting any more chances.
Your feedback on the mutual accusations is also important. We understand that you would have liked a clearer statement in some places. We see it as our job to redirect attention to the needs behind the situation so that we can open doors again without taking sides. This balance is not always easy. We take your feedback seriously and are reviewing it for ourselves. Your comment about the questionnaire is also very valuable.
Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for recommending us. .
And at the same time, we also read that you are still very much in this hole yourself. Your condition shows that a deeper pain has resonated with you. It certainly makes sense to go further, whether with us or with someone else. This way, it can now be released and you can find the peace you desire. Right now it's less about "understanding even more" and more about gently and reliably reconnecting with yourself through body or breath work.
We very much hope that the hole will not only leave you in pain, but that a deeper ground will emerge over time. One on which you can feel yourself again - not as an old state, but perhaps even more genuine, clearer and more connected than before.
Thank you for your trust, your openness and your willingness to keep going.
From the bottom of my heart
Ilona & Viktor