We were originally led to Couple Care by the book by Aino Simon- Liebe lieber einzigartig. Ordered - read in one go - and found it terrific.
I have already started working with the book and the questions it poses and excerpted the important parts. The book picked me up where I was standing.
In short, within a very short time I got an initial appointment and although my husband was very skeptical about it all - after the first appointment he too was convinced of the quality and the pre-sketched path that would await us with the Couple Care Program.
The program is very structured with the videos and the tasks you get. In the beginning alone, the questions for self-reflection open many doors in oneself and in the partnership and bring in a lot of fresh air.
It felt like a basic renovation. The foundation is checked and then we worked our way up floor by floor. Junk was disposed of, old beliefs were thrown overboard, every room was explored - often new things were discovered in the other person that were lost in everyday life. Old things were reworked together, perhaps also "restored" and now shine in new splendor. And at the end of the program we both realized that even though we have been together for 12 years, we have fallen in love again on a deeper level.
Now this is all very figuratively speaking - we have been helped by the combination of information, learned techniques such as reflection and analysis of conversation culture, listening re-learning, and much more. So incredibly helped. Of course the individual sessions where both of us were met with so much empathy and never one of us felt pilloried. But we had had these experiences before in other couples therapies. AND then this aspect of being networked with other couples. In the beginning this was rather daunting for us - but already from the first live calls we noticed how unbelievably great it is to be able to exchange, or "just" to hear that others feel the same way, to share - everyone finds his or her place and space in the group just as he or she wants. This was a completely new but incredibly healing experience for us, which we had underestimated. Not to mention the "swarm knowledge" or whatever you want to call it, that so much input is gathered in the group, if you want it, that can literally carry you through a problem.
Our lives have changed a lot because of Couple Care. We notice it not only in our marriage, but also in our family and our environment.
We are better connected with ourselves again and along with that we communicate more clearly with each other and with our environment. We feel the peace that has returned and we have also learned that there can simply be two opinions without having to convince anyone or one point of view has to be better - what a Game Changer For us ....would probably also be for the world.
Love is getting back the space it has been longing for - which is not to say that all problems are gone - they are just explored differently now, needs of both partners are taken care of and there are so many possible solutions, sometimes as unique as we are.