Our son's transition to secondary school was a huge challenge for all of us, but especially for him. He was separated from many, almost all, of his friends after the fourth grade and was initially very lost in the new school. In the new class community, he had to find his new place. He took an unfavorable path and there were often fights between the boys. He appeared very angry and aggressive on the outside, but was actually just sad, insecure and lost in the new situation. Little things often escalated. Looking back, he always understood that he had overreacted, but in the situation itself he was unable to get his emotions under control. There were class book entries, conversations with the teachers and detention. However, these measures didn't really help as they didn't get to the root of the problem. We tried to support our son as best we could as parents, but of course we were also very personally and emotionally involved and couldn't get any further. Although we tried to strengthen him emotionally and always be there for him, our opinion wasn't worth that much to him as we loved him anyway because we were his parents. We therefore felt it was important to involve a neutral person from outside, a professional. The school social pedagogue then drew my attention to Ms. Silis. Our aim was to give our son the support he needed to find his way in the new situation and it was important for him to find himself again first.
So we had our preliminary meeting with Ms. Silis. Ms. Silis and our son got on very well straight away and simply had a good rapport with each other. She explained her approach to us and we were always involved in the process. Ms. Silis' warm, determined and hands-on manner also won us over straight away. She always visited us at home, which gave our son a sense of security thanks to the familiar surroundings. In joint discussions, Ms. Silis and he got to the root of the problem and through self-reflection and concrete alternative courses of action, our son got his emotional world back under control. That was the root I mentioned above. This was tackled and so his behavior within the class community changed and his self-esteem also increasingly improved. Our son always looked forward to talking to Mrs. Silis. Certainly because the two of them had a good rapport, but of course also because he noticed that something improved for him with every conversation. As parents, we always received feedback on what the two of them were working on together and also specific homework to reinforce positive things.
We found the collaboration with Ms. Silis to be very good. It was a great fit on a personal level and with her help we were able to really help our son. We all pulled together.
A lot has changed for our son. He is now much more "chilled out" and in difficult situations he remains calm and no longer allows himself to be provoked. The calm that has returned at school has also returned at home, which of course makes us all very happy.
Thanks to the alternative actions that our son now knows thanks to Mrs. Silis, he can help himself in difficult situations. We are of course still there for him and support him whenever necessary and even when it is not necessary, we make sure that he goes to school with a "positively charged battery".
We can only warmly recommend Ms. Silis to all parents who are in a similar situation to ours. Sometimes you just need outside help and there is no point in waiting for things to get better. You have to tackle problems, then you can solve them. And in our case, that worked very well. A big thank you for that :)
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